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Jan 2023
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Dec 2022
The New Words, and how they make a difference to self-perception.
“Assigned male at birth”
This is society’s categorisation. We’re assigned our gender roles as soon as we’re born, based on our genitals. It’s very quickly established in the minds of young people that assigned male / female genders are in some kind of opposition. Males are conditioned from early on that becoming a boy is less about what we can achieve than it is about how not to be a girl. We continue to live in a patriarchy.
Once assigned gender, we’re conditioned to not only accept it but to carry on the inherent propagation of the concept of gender. We live in a phallocentric society and anything ‘girly’ is dismissed as not having worth. It’s a way of asserting masculinity or maleness as being ‘correct’. It never sat right with me. It’s bullshit, and it can only suit people who can take to the walls of their box without question. The walls of my box have always been see-through, porous. “Assigned male at birth” sums it up in a new way. Yes, technically correct, but with a new understanding that the birth certificate categorisation does not allow for nuance.
We’re taught that men shouldn’t wear women’s clothes, unless it’s for comedy value. I’m ok with that, the second part anyway. It is a bit ridiculous. I don’t really have the figure for it so I just look like me, but in a dress. But it’s not shameful to be a woman, despite what we’re conditioned to believe, so there’s no reason that it should be shameful to wear a dress.
“non-binary”
I never identified with the old words. They were too boldly descriptive, or literal, or just wrong. This isn’t about performative femininity, just a true expression of self. It can be fine to be male a lot of the time, and enjoy the privileges that come with it, but I also need to be able to reject it sometimes. Some people don’t like labels, but I think they’re useful in helping us understand who we are. Neither straight, gay, bi, nor trans, are labels that speak any truth to me, but non-binary does. I’ve been inescapably labelled ‘male’, not without good reason, and non-binary just means that there’s more to it than that. I reject the notion that being male should put people in a box that they can’t and shouldn’t question.
“Queer”
At some point someone realised that ‘LGBT’ didn’t encompass everyone who felt marginalised or who still couldn’t understand who they were. So Q was added. The literal translation of ‘queer’, according to the Thesaurus, is: odd, strange, unusual, funny, peculiar, eccentric, unconventional, unorthodox, anomalous, atypical, different, extraordinary, remarkable, mystifying, baffling, incongruous, uncommon, irregular, outré, offbeat, singular, deviant… and yeah any of those do kind of make sense. It’s not fixed. It’s not a sexuality. It’s just a way of explaining the compulsion for something, well, peculiar and unconventional and outside of heteronormativity. Queerness an escape from traditional boundaries. It describes the feeling of being in opposition to, or in alienation from, normativity and the prejudices that sustain it.
“Neuroqueer”
This makes even more sense. I now understand myself better than I ever have done, and it is apparent that neurodivergence and queerness often go hand-in-hand. My mind doesn’t enjoy or even really understand rationalism. I think that’s why I struggle a lot of the time. I can’t handle the noise, or the expectations of heteronormative society. And now I know there’s a reason why I’ve always felt out of kilter, I feel less inclined to give a fuck about what anyone else thinks, and less inclined to pretend anymore. I just want to achieve being someone who I like and can be happy with. I just like wearing a dress (and, preferably, fishnet tights).
The new words are making a difference to how I perceive and understand myself. I was born and brought up in a world that made irrelevant things matter hugely. Thankfully that’s no longer the case, and these new words are helping to bring down those barriers, real and imagined. I’ve resolved to chip away at the blocks I’ve always put in my own way. I think I only put them there because I thought they were real, and they’re not. Not anymore.
Sep 2022
Neuroqueer ADHD/ASD and happiest in a dress.
Brown hair, brown eyes, nicely girly legs.
I’m into books, music, plants, the sea, and long walks, and sleeping.
I’d like to see a better world, not too much to ask is it?
Ask me anything, nothing’s off limits.
Just looking for friends and belonging of some kind.
Interests:
Lingerie, Goth wear, Leather Skirt/Dress, I am Sub, High Heels, Corsets, Friendship, Art Exhibitions, Museums, Movies / Cinema, Good Food / Wine, Historic Places / Architecture, Girdles, Dresses, Skirts, Casual Tops, Books & Literature, Theatre, Kilts, Vintage, I am Bottom, I am Switch
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